Monday, January 21, 2008

I don't know what the title should be

I had a good talk with my grampa yesterday and I find he is sometimes easier to talk to. I also talked to my parents today and they weren't as understanding. I sometimes don't get half the things they do and they don't tell me why they just say you don't need to know because you will have something to say about it. Well its getting better in a way, I'm just trying to get to know them better and understand them more.

Today I have to work so I am doing this post so I don't forget to do one. I will write more later because I have to get ready to go now. so everyone just wait until about 6:00 then I will try to write something more.


zorg said...

I'm waiting...

Yeah, I know what you mean about parents, but I think its getting better with mine.

Joseph said...

Just wait Ms.Impatient.

Cathy said...

Joseph and Zorg, someday maybe you will be the parents and you will see just how tough it is to parent teens. When your children are little, it is easy to say "do this, don't do that" and have them obey "because I said so."

But as children get older they like to try to reason with their parents when they don't agree. Then it's a little harder, but the parent can still say, "This is my decision and don't try to change my mind."

But then those older children become teenagers, and there needs to be more give and take. Sometimes we can explain our reasons, sometimes we can't. On one hand we need you to accept our decisions and submit to them, but on the other hand we need to listen to your opinions.

These are the tug of war years, where you guys are becoming adults in your own right, capable of making your own decisions on a lot of things. But you are not adults yet, and sometimes we can't let you make certain decisions on your own. That's when you need to trust us, which is hard when we can't or won't explain things to you.

For us parents, it's like walking a tightrope trying to figure out when to let a teen make their own sometimes unwise decision and when not to. We want to protect you, but we also want to let you grow up. We want to shelter you, but we don't want you to experience a lot of culture shock when you do get out into the world.

Be patient with us, and use this time to practice your joyful submission skills. God doesn't like us to reason with him when he's told us something to do. You'll find he doesn't always tell us why, either. If you can learn to submit to your earthly parents with joy, you will be that much further ahead when you leave home and must submit more to your heavenly Father.

This was a long comment, but I hope it helps you both a little.

Cathy said...

By the way, I love the other godly older adults in my children's lives. They have a lot of wisdom, and can impart it to my children without any of that tug-of-war tension I mentioned. You need other mentors besides your own parents. Just make sure they are godly mentors.

Joseph said...

That sounded almost like you where implying something about Sarah and Me. I've had a lot of that. I think she has too. This is what I'll say. Sarah and my are just friends and can only be that with how things are going. it doesn't matter what we may feel if at all because she planing on leaving to be a nurse and I'm not going anywhere. But Sarah, as a friend it still will be hard.

Joseph said...

Sorry on the bad spelling.

Cathy said...


I am so sorry!!!!!!!

That was the furthest thing from my mind!!!!!!!

If that's all you got from that comment, you have TOTALLY missed the point!!!!!!

I'm glad Zorg got it.

I addressed "Joseph and Zorg" because they are the ones who were talking about the issue. I would have had the same thing to say if the people had been "Pete and Bob" or "Sue and Ziggy" or whoever.


zorg said...

lol, you guys are so funny!!

But Joseph, I would have to agree that as friends, it will be hard.

And guess what happened to me today, we needed lettuce for lunch so i got it out of the fridge, grabbing the bottom of the bag. And water poured out all over my lag. Do you have any idea why that happened? :)

Joseph said...

No I didn't miss the rest of it at all thats just what I commented about. No I don't I emptied it when I used it. And I don't think that it poured on your lag, your leg maybe, but your lag, is your comp that bad. And Cathy whats with the "be the Parents".

zorg said...

yeah our computer is that bad.

Cathy said...

" the parents..." means that someday you might have children. Just like I have children. Just like other people have children. That's all.

Maybe I could have said, "...some day maybe you will each have your own children...." Would that have been more clear?

I don't have the time right now, but if I can get on the computer later (hint, hint) I will post on my blog my thoughts on this whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing that is so common in our culture. You might find it interesting reading. And you might also learn from that, that I would never imply what you thought I implied when speaking to or about teenagers.

Joseph said...

Cathy I did get what you said. but if you still want to go ahead.